being a hero.. it's absurd!

each of us encountered difficult moments in our lives.. some people suffered from poverty, some suffered from abuse, some claimed that they're victims of love..this used to be my claim.. a victim of love..but when we come to think of all the things that happened.. it's all because we let it happened to us.. so who is there to blame? of course it's not him and not her.. it's you... and it's only you..

one of the realizations that i learned was life is what we make it.. it is only you who can shape your future.. your destiny.. that fairy tale does not exists.. those stories are product of man's imagination..

also, if we love someone.. we should not give it our all.. it's not bad to be selfish at times.. think of yourself first before others...think of all the consequences of your actions.. will it benefit you? will it benefit your partner? or will it benefit only one person? giving your all is a suicide.. ask yourself first.. if i cannot give him/her this much for now.. is he/she willing to accept me? or you have started to give it your all.. what if you realize at a later time that it's not healthy? will it do good to the both of you? so when will you stop? if you're drowning and can't hardly breath and if your near to death?

acceptance and understanding..these are very important in a long lasting relationship.. but this should not be one-sided.. otherwise..

lay your cards.. don't pretend to be something who you are not..

being a hero.. it's absurd!